People Say the Darndest Things

I remember way back when my friend, Kelli, was expecting her first child, and she would share some of the lovely comments that often came her way.  I can still hear her warning as clear as day:  "Just wait until you're pregnant.  People say the craziest things."  

Then I was pregnant, and I found out that yes, people tend to lose their filter when they are around anyone expecting.  At my towering height of 5'2, I heard a lot of those "crazy" things.  For example, "Wow!  You look like you are about to pop!  You'll never make it!"  Or how about my most favorite, "Gosh!  You look awful!"  That last comment was actually the day before I started my five weeks of bed rest, so in a way, I guess that sweet person was at least somewhat on track.  Thankfully though, I was given full warning of these shenanigans (Thanks, Kelli!), so those people and their insensitive ways were easy to overlook.  

Unfortunately, what I didn't know is this:

Some people say/do the craziest things after you're pregnant, too.  

And this, this hurts.  

As a mom, I know I'm not perfect, but I always try my absolute best.  Although it may not be true for everyone, I like to believe that most moms feel the exact same way.  I think that every mom's experience is unique, fun, rewarding, and at times, very difficult.  In my first ten months as a mother of two, I've proudly powered through several weeks in the NICU, a week in the CICU, eight months of sleep depravation (due to around the clock doses of heart meds), and a demanding job to boot.  The funny thing is, I wouldn't give it up for the world.  I truly believe that all of these events have made me into the strong, resilient mother that I need to be to raise our fun-loving twins.

So, what's with all of these crazy people and their even crazier remarks?  

I haven't the faintest clue!

However, I do know this:  It is very easy to pass judgement when you are on the outside looking in.

I often wonder that if others had a bird's eye view of your daily interactions with your children, would they still waste their breath with snide remarks?  I would like to think not, but with some people, who knows!  I guess I've come to realize that it really doesn't matter either way.  In fact, there is only really one thing that does.

God chose me, just like He chose you, and you, and you, to be a mother of His children!

At the end of the day, others can try to bring you down, but if you love your children with all of your heart, then it's all water under the bridge.  It may take some others a while to figure this out, but they don't really matter anyway.  You're the mom, right?  :)  

Yesterday, I saw this commercial:  
Johnson&Johnson Video

Check it out!  It made me feel a lot better about things!